It may be confusing to read the phrase ''Motherhood - A second time'', Whats motherhood for a second time.. Well, I used it to mean, how things can be so different when a woman who is already a mother, is expecting again. I have observed mixed feelings here, one is of being confident, to face what's ahead this time and be prepared, and few apprehensions about managing the two kids around. Come what may, there is some anxiety to face, and some research to do again.
If preparing the first kid to accept the arrival of the second is a huge task, think about the times, when the first kid, who is so, used to depend on her mum for all the work he/she is unable to do, has to do all things independently. So, basically, the first kid will accept the second, only if he or she is, learning to be independent, much before the second kid's arrival. I believe that, kids want to be independent by nature, it is we, who make them depend on us, in order to avoid uncomfortable circumstances when a kid is trying to be independent.
If the first child's arrival, stopped time for a mother, the second child's arrival will bring in a reversal of pattern, time will run faster this time. This is also the time, when a mother needs to be back into action sooner, more so because she cannot imagine how, the first kid is gonna, take things if mom is always attending to the second bundle of joy.
Well, not all is bad, especially if the first born is, all excited and eager to, see and play with his/her baby sister/brother. Sure, this time things will be easier to handle. By easier, I mean, sweet talks would be enough to get the first born's to adjust around mum's new timetable. This is one advantage, of conceiving the second child, only when the first born starts to miss company of kids. It is much easier and helpful if one has, grandparents to engage the first borns. I do not say, that, a nuclear family finds it tough to manage, every kind of family has its own set of advantages and problems to offer. A well planned second kid, will always bring happiness, unlike the first one which, even when planned, brings along surprises galore, besides happiness.
If preparing the first kid to accept the arrival of the second is a huge task, think about the times, when the first kid, who is so, used to depend on her mum for all the work he/she is unable to do, has to do all things independently. So, basically, the first kid will accept the second, only if he or she is, learning to be independent, much before the second kid's arrival. I believe that, kids want to be independent by nature, it is we, who make them depend on us, in order to avoid uncomfortable circumstances when a kid is trying to be independent.
If the first child's arrival, stopped time for a mother, the second child's arrival will bring in a reversal of pattern, time will run faster this time. This is also the time, when a mother needs to be back into action sooner, more so because she cannot imagine how, the first kid is gonna, take things if mom is always attending to the second bundle of joy.
Well, not all is bad, especially if the first born is, all excited and eager to, see and play with his/her baby sister/brother. Sure, this time things will be easier to handle. By easier, I mean, sweet talks would be enough to get the first born's to adjust around mum's new timetable. This is one advantage, of conceiving the second child, only when the first born starts to miss company of kids. It is much easier and helpful if one has, grandparents to engage the first borns. I do not say, that, a nuclear family finds it tough to manage, every kind of family has its own set of advantages and problems to offer. A well planned second kid, will always bring happiness, unlike the first one which, even when planned, brings along surprises galore, besides happiness.
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