Friends - Are you Connected?

After my graduation in Engineering discipline, I was prepared to lose contact with all my friends. This was nothing new to me. I experienced this, when I finished my secondary schooling, then Intermediate college and then finally my graduation college. By this time, I had a dream to chase, dream about having a comfortable life, where I would not have to worry about a test I did not perform well. I will surely have newer challengers to keep me engaged.
But soon, one is waken off, their dream with harsh reality. The first of thoughts that occur are always, how well were we when, at college. While I was at college, I always wanted to finish education faster and settle into a job, but after the monotony of job life and work pressures take their toll, first people to be remembered are friends. Yes, friends are really God's apology for relations. It is my favorite liner, after I understood the worth of a friend.
When I was in a new place, to begin a new phase in my life, I missed my friends. When I was depressed, sad or was under pressure, I would console myself with memories of my college days. I dearly missed the fun during my study days with my friends.
When I found few of my friends at Orkut I was very happy, but they migrated to Facebook sooner. eventually I also started using it, to reconnect with my friends, and I do not regret that decision even until today. We are in touch again, each are in their own boundary of responsibilities and binds, yet connected with a string called Facebook. I am really so happy to find it.
This post is dedicated to all my friends, from school, from college and every where else I met a new friend. I am grateful to god to have you all.

Career Oriented or Family Oriented

It is rare to find a woman who does not give importance to her family over her career. If she is found otherwise, she is called headstrong or arrogant. It is hard to digest the fact for a man, to find a Woman in power.
How right(or wrong) is it on part of a woman to quit her job to look after her child. Is it wrong any time for a woman to continue with her job, because financial situation demanded it. Women are never given any choice, they have to work, if they are not secure financially, while a few women, who like to work, will have to choose to stay at home, for the sake of their child.

If we keep aside, the facts(or mere observations) from all the research about kid's development being faster and intelligent, when he or she is with her mother than with a care taker, all women would love to get back to work. As far as I am concerned, it is all in the way, a mother brings up her children, even if she is working or not.

A working mother can bring up, kids, who grow up, learning to be independent, and respect elders and others, without being vain or spoiled. At the same time, a woman who sacrificed her job to stay with her child may also spoil him/her child, by attending to his/her every whim and fancy, because she is always available for granting their wish and thus making them dependent on her, for every little thing.

So, the important factor is the way they are brought up, not the sacrifices a woman makes. In fact, these sacrifices are taken for granted as soon as the kids grow up and get used to having their mother do all their jobs. They seem to think that it is their right to have their mothers attend to them all the time.

Women Being Silent

Hi all,
I just read a post on Facebook, which said, If a woman is silent, she is either thinking, too much, needs a hug, a reassurance or is crying inside or all of it. Now, Haven't I heard it so often, about how women are talkative lot.
First thing, Cant a woman be silent at all? I mean there are so many women who are serious kind, who do not talk unless they are very close, while there are few who do not like to talk at all. It is rare case scenario, but there are such cases, and I have seen such women, who simply keep to themselves or do not speak all the time. In fact, I wanted to be one, for I was named a talkative girl, by my mother. But at school, I was the serious kind.
All this talk about women not able to remain silent, seems too artificial to me. According to me, a woman can get acquainted with any new circumstance faster than men, and communicating is the best way to get acquainted. Men do not ask for directions and Women always know, how to find their way ;)
What do you people think?

My Research about Uncinate Osteophytosis

I could not find anything clearly about Uncinate Osteophytosis online. In fact Google instant suggested that I type Uncinate Oestophytes for getting results, which were are all Greek and Latin to me. I then proceeded to consult, my Gynecologist and a Pathologist relative of mine, who taught medical students.
My gynecologist who was also my relative, thought it was nothing to be worried about. But my online search about this(with changed keyword as ''bone spurs'') had me scared, because it was mild form of spondylitis, but I had one symptom that indicated its severity. Neck ache would radiate to head and cause me to throw up everything, even water. I would then have to simply sleep for very long, I once slept for about one and a half day. After which, it would be bearable, but nagging pain is always present in the neck.
I came to know about this condition, from my regular physician, I went to, after that sleep marathon incident. She suggested two X-Ray tests for neck, in strange poses. After seeing the report, she could not understand much either, so she recommended that I consult an Orthopedic.
I went to my regular Orthopedic, whom I had gone to, when I had similar ache for my right shoulder(It was immovable for days together). He simply suggested that it was common condition and nothing to be worried about. He prescribed pain killers to be taken, whenever I had severe pain. I remembered that for getting over my shoulder ache, I had started taking up Surya Namaskara(series of Yoga poses that give salutations to the Sun God) and other pain relieving exercises for shoulder. But, after I was relieved of pain, I completely stopped practicing it.
Well, I then happened to discuss this with a Pathologist relative, who knew the theory well, she said, bone cells growth was more than usual, and this growth at the neck, will cause muscles to get stressed and cause pain. Medication can only help relieve pain temporarily.
To which I asked, how did exercise relieve my pain then? She replied saying, it will loosen the muscles and thus help in movement without pain. I was surprised, How could I get such a condition, I was not very heavy built or one who consumed more milk products, nor had enough milk myself, I was so miser when it came to feeding myself. In fact, My gynecologist had suggested that I take Calcium supplement for the lack of it may result in greater complications, which was stopped as soon as she saw this report about active bone growth cells.
I had very long discussion with my Pathologist relative, who gave me a scare, when she concluded that there are stages through which a person will find himself or herself going through. Initially, there will be mild pain, without any necessity for medication or exercises, the next stage is when, exercise is enough to get relieved from pain, but after a while exercise alone won't help. Medication also is needed, and the final stage where medication is also useless, at which stage, that person will be operated to remove that extra piece of bone growth.
I was horrified, but somehow gained strength and asked her what was to be done, she suggested that I stop intake of rich Calcium foods. I fell very ill, the next day itself. I was then told by my sister that neck ache was due to a thought process that constricted me from taking other's view point into consideration(I had stopped being submissive, since long time now). Now after diet changes, lifestyle changes, some positive thinking and respecting other's point of view has, given me painless days. I am without pain for more than a month now. I am thankful, to everything, every person, every thought that helped me get through this and gain control over it. More on positive thought and daily vedic shlokas that helped me attract positive thoughts, in my coming posts.

A Book Called Secret

Hello all,
Hope you people had a wonderful weekend. Mine was not bad considering I could have fallen seriously ill, if not for my timely change of thought pattern. Well, I follow Louise L Hay to some extent. I was not very fond of such self help books, nor did I believe that these were true, until I started seeing good results to some extent. I wont say, I had a miracle happening there, because it is very difficult to stop bad thoughts from occurring, which is very necessary to observe good results. I had series of complains like back ache, headaches, tiredness, and other aches that would bother me and disrupt my otherwise very hectic schedule of the day. I realized that, I was working up myself, straining myself too much, after I left my desk job(to attend to my six month old daughter), at a Central government lab facility( how I miss those days of research :( ), I started to do more house hold work, become stingy in spending money for myself, I neglected myself so much, I started looking like I have aged 20 years within a year.
That was when my dear little sister(she was no more little, she had grown up and started advising me :)) gifted this book named Heal Your Body. I never had time to open it ;) . I used to have those heavy headaches which will not let me eat, or work, I will keep throwing up and sleep all day. So, she said, it might be food poisoning, and asked me to think that my body is able to digest everything or something similar on these lines. I cant say, I observed instant results, I did find some relief because I had tried many other home remedies to tackle food poisoning. I was finally happy that I was relieved of it.
I observed that changing thought pattern affects us, in the way we feel our body is reacting to pain or discomfort. I started thinking many more positive thoughts, and stick a list of thoughts that I would think about or read out loud whenever I have leisure.
I was so depressed until I found a writing job with a main writer, and am I thankful to her, for hiring me, when my writing was not very good. She trained me, corrected me and guided me as a friend. I will always pray that she be good and keep helping many others. Lets get back to the topic now.

Now, that I understood, that thoughts can change your mindset, I was searching for something good at Osho's website about meditation, for meditation helps one think positive and good thoughts. I then found some magnificent quotes which affected me profoundly. I also happened to read other good books on nature being God. It explained about this connection each one has with nature, which always gives us everything when we seek in right manner. Even God is like that, always forgiving, if we are willing to correct our mistakes. It was then my sister gave me a soft copy of this book called The Secret. It happens to talk something very similar to Nature being God like and giving us results according to what we think is gonna happen.
It said, Nature does not understand negatives, that is, if we think that we are not going to fall sick, it cannot see the thought 'not', it will only see 'fall sick' and makes us sick. I have observed that after I changed my thought pattern to 'I will be healthy', I started seeing results, not instantly though. If not for Louise. L. Hay and the Secret, it would have been difficult to wade through Uncinate Osteophytosis(condition I was diagnosed with few months ago). I will talk about this condition and what I found online about it in my other posts. But, if not for Secret, and a book by Deepak Chopra(title was something like Seven spiritual Laws of success), I would never have found the courage to keep myself going, with my neck ache.